I don’t care what anyone says, but you are never too old to add a little spice to your life!
A common concern I hear from many couples (and individuals too!) is their romantic and intimate life has become boring. After hearing story after story, the common pattern for relationships is falling into the “same old” routine. Here are just a few reasons I’m told:
“We only go to the movies for dates.”
“We can’t go out during the week! We have kids!”
“We just stopped doing the things we did when we were dating.”
“Only attractive and sexy people/couples do those things!”
“We just don’t have time during the day.”
When was there a law created that said couples, after a certain time together, can only sleep, work, run errands, clean house, and maybe go to dinner or a movie once a week? Who said that parents aren’t allowed to go out during the week? Again, who created a law that only “attractive” people can have “spicy” lives together?
This is my two cents (ok, maybe three cents…),
First, MAKE TIME FOR SPICE! Before you can actually ADD spice to your life, YOU MUST MAKE TIME FOR IT! Schedule a date night and make it just as important as your cardiology workup, afternoon gym session, or holiday dinner with the family! Put it on your schedule and in your budget if you must.
Second, think about what USED to excite you or what you looked forward to on a date with your partner. Think about activities you never tried, but WANTED to try. Create a list of activities or dates. Call it your “Date Night Spice Bucket List.” Put that list in a place you will remember and see often so it is a constant reminder of what you need and deserve.
Third, forget about what others will think! This is for YOU and your partner (or just you if you so choose!). If we were talking about paying your bills or fixing dinner or your next vacation, would it matter what your best friend/cousin/sister/mother in-law thought? Right. Then why are your intimate or romantic activities any different?
In Part 2 of this blog, Courtney will give you ideas to create your own “Date Night Spice Bucket List!”